People of the Same Quality
I had a very good friend in college that was the same quality as I was. She was a Sagittarius and I am a Pisces, both Mutable signs (Tech signs). We had a lot of similarities. We were both in the school of engineering, both enjoyed studying together, both liked going to night clubs together, loved sports, and had many in depth conversations about life. I also found her very attractive. I loved her very much, but we never dated nor did I see us ever getting married.
The problem that we had was that I looked forward to family life. Like the feminine sign that I am (Pisces), I looked forward to getting married, having children, and having that house with the white picket fence. Like the masculine sign that she was (Sagittarius), she did not necessarily want children. She did not want to be tied down. She wanted to be able to get up and take a trip whenever she wanted.
I remember going to a restaurant that I liked with her. I felt very comfortable there, but she felt very uncomfortable there. After a while, she found out what it was. She said “Every table has Mom, Dad, Grandma, Grandpa, and the kids at it.” It was everything that I liked, but she didn’t.
You can see how this type of difference could be a challenge for a couple. Yes, qualities have a lot of similarities that could lead to strong relationships like my friend and I, but the differences are not complementing. Does this mean that they can not work? No. The first thing to realize is that you do have a lot of similarities, but you may be missing that spark that people of the same elementsee. The second thing is that you need to get past your differences.
When my first marriage ended in divorce, my requirements for my next wife were different. I had two wonderful children from my first wife that I have custody of almost 50% of the time. Divorce is a horrible thing for children. There are some nice things about it for the adults though. First, I found that when the kids were with me, I gave them a lot more attention. You tend to appreciate things more when your time is limited. The second nice thing is that every other week you do not have kids. This means you can go to parties, go on trips, play more sports, and other things that people without kids can do.
I decided that I did not want to have any more kids with my next wife. I wanted to maintain my “Best of both worlds” lifestyle. I also did not think that it would be fair to my children to have kids with another person.
I decided that a person like my Sagittarius friend from college would be perfect for me. I ended up marrying a Sagittarius that was even better than my friend from college. Meeting my wife goes beyond astrology though. I’m convinced that meeting her was pure magic. I could write a whole book about how much I love her. It would be a romance novel though.
My wife never wanted to have her own children. When we first met, and before she knew that I had children, she told me that she did not want to have children. She thought that it would be nice to have instant children, but she did not want to go through the pain of child birth and that diaper phase. She turns out to be an absolutely fantastic stepmother to my children.
The Sagittarius not being so family oriented was a problem before, but it was later a desirable trait. This is an example of a difference that is not complementing being overcome. The point is that people of the same quality could form great relationships. On the same note, people of the same quality could be a disastrous relationship.